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Steven’s Universe

There are some stories, some ways of explaining the world that I keep coming back to. When I worked at a hippie preschool, I learned that children process the world in all its pain and newnesses through play, re-enacting and transforming...
Trans Folks, Survivors, and Partners Practicing Sexual Consent

Trans Folks, Survivors, and Partners Practicing Sexual Consent

In intimate relationships, practicing consent means communicating about touching and boundaries. Consent is essential for a wide range of activities—holding hands, cuddling, oral sex. (As an aside, consent is also important in non-intimate contexts, like disclosing...
Freeze: The Forgotten Stress Response

Freeze: The Forgotten Stress Response

By Anole Halper Survivors of sexual violence sometimes blame themselves because in the moment of violence, they did something they don’t understand: rather than run away or fight back, they stayed still; they did nothing.  Image description: Image is a blue pie...