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Book Review: Sorry I keep crying during sex

Book Review: Sorry I keep crying during sex

As someone who has cried a lot during and after sex, I immediately checked out Sorry I Keep Crying During Sex by Jesse James Rose when I saw it at the library. Then I learned the author is trans/nonbinary and the book is also about dementia. It’s like it was made for...
TDOV: The Trans Rights Read-a-thon

TDOV: The Trans Rights Read-a-thon

The Trans Rights Read-a-thon is an annual event from March 17-31st, the two weeks leading up to Trans Day of Visibility. The Read-a-thon encourages people to read books by and about trans/nonbinary people and donate to trans organizations. This year,...
Contradictions

Contradictions

I’ve started to get “misgendered” at the airport again. I put “misgendered” in quotes, because I’m not entirely sure how I want to be gendered (by strangers) anymore. The TSA agent called me “ma’am” before I removed my mask for facial ID, and “sir” afterward. I...
Learning to Stay

Learning to Stay

I’m tired of shutting people out. I’m tired of cutting people off. I’m tired of ghosting people. I’m tired of people ghosting me. I want relationships where we work through the hard stuff. Where we are committed to each other even when we fuck up and say hurtful...
Living with people and living with trauma 

Living with people and living with trauma 

“Ugh, Jay left their dishes in the sink again,” my housemate said to me. I am not Jay. I am not, nor have I ever been responsible for Jay’s behavior. Yet the first thing that my brain says to me is, “Wow, you fucked up again. This is all your fault. What’s wrong with...