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Image-Based Abuse and Trans Communities

Image-Based Abuse and Trans Communities

What is image-based abuse?  A recent study from the American Sunlight Project found that about 1 in 6 congresswomen have been the victims of sexually explicit “deepfakes.” Deepfakes are AI-generated images that appear real, and are often difficult to differentiate...
The power of writing shit down

The power of writing shit down

“It is so important and necessary to document, period. If we don’t know where we’ve come from, we won’t have the full knowledge to take us where we need to go.”  – Qween Jean, in conversation with Raquel Willis (Revolution is Love: A Year of Black Trans...
The perfect trans educator does not exist

The perfect trans educator does not exist

When I canvassed for the Human Rights Campaign in 2018, people would stop on the street to ask me questions about queer and trans identities. Sometimes they would tell me they “didn’t care what I did in the bedroom.” One woman put her hands over my head and prayed to...
Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

I had top surgery when I was seventeen.   There’s a lot of fearmongering going on about gender-affirming care for minors and what it entails. Politicians and public figures have used this point of division to remove access to life-saving care for young trans people....
Spiritual Connections: A Sacred Gender Review

Spiritual Connections: A Sacred Gender Review

“Many trans folks feel cut off from the Divine because we are taught not to see ourselves in it.”  What is your relationship like to spirituality or religion? How do you see your gender connected or not connected to your spirituality? Have you felt belonging in...