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Not everything is strength training

Not everything is strength training

Keep pushing. Just push through. Fake it til you make it. No pain, no gain.   Phew. There are a lot of messages I’ve gotten throughout my life that have tried to tell me that the only way to learn, to grow, and quite frankly to exist, is to always be striving, trying...
Asking for help

Asking for help

I grew up in a culture that taught fierce independence, never asking for help, and pushing through, even when hurting. I have been working to learn something different for a long time, and I’m still working at it.   Like many people, I have countless stories about how...
How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

It’s hot outside. We’ve seen many days of record heat across the globe this year, and there are more to come. It’s also metaphorically hot. People are angry – some righteously so at injustice, genocide, oppression – and some because people they don’t like are seeking...