Note: this article discusses consensual sex and uses examples of types of sex but does not have detailed descriptions. In the US, mainstream culture has a confusing relationship to sex. On one side, there’s pressure for everyone to want sex and to be sexual. On the...
Keep pushing. Just push through. Fake it til you make it. No pain, no gain. Phew. There are a lot of messages I’ve gotten throughout my life that have tried to tell me that the only way to learn, to grow, and quite frankly to exist, is to always be striving, trying...
At least once a day I tell someone that rumor has it feeling your feelings is good for you. I’ve read probably hundreds of books that assert that fact. I’ve experienced it myself. And yet, actually feeling my feelings is hard. Often it sucks. Sometimes it’s absolutely...
I’ve been writing versions of this over and over for months. To face the many challenges in our world today: climate disasters, violence, fascism, scarcity, and more, we are called to embrace community and connection. Mutual aid asks us to get to know the people...
I grew up in a culture that taught fierce independence, never asking for help, and pushing through, even when hurting. I have been working to learn something different for a long time, and I’m still working at it. Like many people, I have countless stories about how...
