Consent education often focuses on asking for consent and what is or is not consent. For example, consent is an enthusiastic yes – anything else is a no. It’s critical that people learn to communicate with each other – to be able to understand the differences between...
As someone who has cried a lot during and after sex, I immediately checked out Sorry I Keep Crying During Sex by Jesse James Rose when I saw it at the library. Then I learned the author is trans/nonbinary and the book is also about dementia. It’s like it was made for...
“Ugh, Jay left their dishes in the sink again,” my housemate said to me. I am not Jay. I am not, nor have I ever been responsible for Jay’s behavior. Yet the first thing that my brain says to me is, “Wow, you fucked up again. This is all your fault. What’s wrong with...
Poetry has been hugely healing for me as I’ve recovered from horrendous domestic and intimate partner violence. I wrote both the pieces about two different relationships with broken men who broke me. But in retrospect, they shared the same spirit and heart of...
“You’re not trying hard enough.” “The system works if you work it.” “If you have faith, this will help.” My therapist and I glared at each other when he said, “I don’t think you’re trying.” Actually, I glared, and I think he tried to have sympathetic therapist face....
