“Ugh, Jay left their dishes in the sink again,” my housemate said to me. I am not Jay. I am not, nor have I ever been responsible for Jay’s behavior. Yet the first thing that my brain says to me is, “Wow, you fucked up again. This is all your fault. What’s wrong with...
Poetry has been hugely healing for me as I’ve recovered from horrendous domestic and intimate partner violence. I wrote both the pieces about two different relationships with broken men who broke me. But in retrospect, they shared the same spirit and heart of...
“You’re not trying hard enough.” “The system works if you work it.” “If you have faith, this will help.” My therapist and I glared at each other when he said, “I don’t think you’re trying.” Actually, I glared, and I think he tried to have sympathetic therapist face....
Note: this article discusses consensual sex and uses examples of types of sex but does not have detailed descriptions. In the US, mainstream culture has a confusing relationship to sex. On one side, there’s pressure for everyone to want sex and to be sexual. On the...
Keep pushing. Just push through. Fake it til you make it. No pain, no gain. Phew. There are a lot of messages I’ve gotten throughout my life that have tried to tell me that the only way to learn, to grow, and quite frankly to exist, is to always be striving, trying...
