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When Hard Feelings Sweep You Out to Sea

When Hard Feelings Sweep You Out to Sea

By Ana Lee Case I knew someone who said she had big feelings. She said they would wash over her like a wave and she’d feel like she was being swept out to sea. I could relate. I’ve had big feelings too, and I know what it’s like to be dragged away from the shore. When...
Freeze: The Forgotten Stress Response

Freeze: The Forgotten Stress Response

By Anole Harper Survivors of sexual violence sometimes blame themselves because in the moment of violence, they did something they don’t understand: rather than run away or fight back, they stayed still; they did nothing.  Image description: Image is a blue pie...
Supporting People Experiencing Hard Times

Supporting People Experiencing Hard Times

by Loree Cook-Daniels Nineteen years later, I still wince at the memories of people who failed to show up for me after my life-partner’s death: the person who said, “just tell me how I can help and I will,” then told me how * I * could get blown-up copies of pictures...