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Wild Grief

Wild Grief

The bathroom door was shut tightly, more to keep me in than keep anything else out. Grief was a groundswell of embodied emotion I didn’t trust myself to touch. Certainly not in wide open spaces. I needed to feel contained in a moment when I couldn’t trust my own bones...

Recouraging

A queer epic fantasy author I enjoy, KA Doore, recently asked on Twitter: Tired of being discouraged. How does one get recouraged?— K.A. Doore (@KA_Doore) March 31, 2020 They wrote from a place of radical vulnerability that gave me pause. It seems our feeds,...

Reminders of resilience in uncertain times

“It feels like the world is ending,” my partner said to me with a voice softened with grief and love. It’s a sentiment I’ve held in my heart alongside many others, not always said the same way but always speaking in subtly resilient languages...
Coping with Traumatic Anniversaries: A Toolkit

Coping with Traumatic Anniversaries: A Toolkit

In the last blog post, we talked about ways to think about and use traumatic anniversaries. Here we offer a toolkit of other useful coping strategies. Create new seasonal associations: Much of what the brain does is create associations between one experience/memory...
Coping With Traumatic Anniversaries: Thinking It Through

Coping With Traumatic Anniversaries: Thinking It Through

Many survivors struggle with traumatic anniversaries. What is a traumatic anniversary? The most obvious example is a yearly calendar date that seems to be circled in big, red marker in our nervous system, setting off cascades of emotional reactions. The anniversary...