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Slowing Down in a World that Teaches Speed

Slowing Down in a World that Teaches Speed

There’s a certain skill to knowing when to curl up beneath the blankets and allow softness to fill the space created after experiencing sexual violence, no matter how long ago or recent, intentionally letting go of anxiety and the pressure to do. Many trans and...
Hitting the Pillow Sober

Hitting the Pillow Sober

For years, the shame some trans and nonbinary survivors carry about harmful behaviors they’ve used to cope with victimization can outweigh their shame over the violence itself. It’s a difficult and long-term process to hold complex histories of behaviors like drug...
The Gift of Traumatic Intrusions

The Gift of Traumatic Intrusions

Lately, I haven’t been able to breathe in my apartment, my nervous system has been too overwhelmed by resurfacing material about the recent loss of my friend. I often need to dedicate time solely to unapologetic grief, sobbing into gallons of coffee before “getting...
Control and the Language of Freedom

Control and the Language of Freedom

For many survivors who live with violent and manipulative people, any inch of freedom is a privilege one had to earn. This control can limit survivors’ physical activities in the most obvious ways: From how trans and nonbinary survivors can present or publically...