There’s a certain skill to knowing when to curl up beneath the blankets and allow softness to fill the space created after experiencing sexual violence, no matter how long ago or recent, intentionally letting go of anxiety and the pressure to do. Many trans and...

Healing is hard work. Sometimes a survivor just needs a little easy diversion; a book, maybe? Don’t make it Jen Manion’s new book, Female Husbands: A Trans History (Cambridge University Press, 2020); it isn’t an easy diversion. In fact, trans and non-binary readers...

For years, the shame some trans and nonbinary survivors carry about harmful behaviors they’ve used to cope with victimization can outweigh their shame over the violence itself. It’s a difficult and long-term process to hold complex histories of behaviors like drug...

As if being transgender or non-binary didn’t generate enough trauma on its own, we might be trying to cope with traumas that didn’t start with us. In the past few years, The 1619 Project, Tulsa Race Riot, and Black Lives Matter itself have all raised the public’s...

Fifteen minutes. That’s all the time John Gottman needs to observe a couple interact over a touchy subject. From that observation alone, Gottman has a 91% chance of correctly predicting whether the couple will end up staying together or divorcing. As we’ve said before...

Lately, I haven’t been able to breathe in my apartment, my nervous system has been too overwhelmed by resurfacing material about the recent loss of my friend. I often need to dedicate time solely to unapologetic grief, sobbing into gallons of coffee before “getting...