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Lessons from History

Lessons from History

Content note: racism, sexism, transphobia, violence When President Biden was safely inaugurated in 2021, I breathed a huge sigh of relief. The four years of checking my phone before getting out of bed to find out if Trump had done another horrible thing to the trans...

Pressure points for healing and anxiety

Pressure points for healing and anxiety

During the holidays, it can always be helpful to have different coping skills in your toolkit for dealing with stress and anxiety. We may already have some strategies we’ve developed (for more ideas, check out last year’s blog post on coping skills). But trying...

Talking about abusive relationships

Talking about abusive relationships

I’ve been thinking a lot about how and when we talk to each other about relationships – dating, sex, break-ups, violence – the good, the hard, the scary, the beautiful stuff. What we say to each other and ourselves often reflects how we see the world and teaches...

Telling our own Stories: Surviving Transphobia Review

Telling our own Stories: Surviving Transphobia Review

Surviving Transphobia is a collection of stories from trans “celebrities and experts,” who share personal journeys of self-discovery and perseverance through hardship. While some of the writers focused on large-scale forms of systemic transphobia, I was surprised and...

Accessing our imaginations to prevent violence

Accessing our imaginations to prevent violence

It is possible to prevent violence. It is possible to end violence. How does it feel to hear that? How does it feel to imagine a world without violence? What would it take to be able to imagine that world? Sometimes it can be hard to imagine a world without violence...

This is for me! A breathing exercise with Dee Dee Watters

This is for me! A breathing exercise with Dee Dee Watters

This Transgender Day of Remembrance, as we're thinking of loved ones who have experienced or died by violence, Dee Dee Watters reminds us to breathe, and to breathe selfishly. Simple practices like taking deep breaths and drinking water remind us that we can still...

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