Mindfulness: Being in the Moment
Have you wondered how to incorporate mindfulness and meditation practices into your life? Do you worry that the only “right” way is to contort your body into uncomfortable (or unachievable) positions – and then stay that way for a long time? There are many ways we ALL...
Carrying Grief and Euphoria from TDOR to Tomorrow
It seems like so few people in America know how to hold grief together. We are often isolated in all its crackling expanse, raw depth, and the ways grief makes its own fissures into each of our lives as uniquely as the designs of each snowflake that can already be...
Therapist Guide: How do you know when to seek therapy?
Sometimes, it's hard to know when to seek therapy. People may want to start therapy when they feel they are at a positive place mentally and emotionally, while others may feel they have to wait until they are in a dark place. The infographic below offers several...
Therapist Guide: Choosing a Therapist
When starting to look for a therapist, many trans survivors find providers that specialize in either gender-related issues or sexual assault and trauma. Some survivors prefer to see one therapist who helps them explore both areas, while others prefer to see separate...
When it Happens Again: Polyvictimization
I was assaulted again by people I knew six weeks ago. Though I have been immersed in antiviolence and survivorship work for the past decade, my mind immediately spun back to familiar myths of self-blame and caustic shame. I open this blog post with these difficult...
If Child Protective Services Gave the OK, Does That Mean It Was OK?
I’ve been investigated by Child Protective Services (CPS) twice. The first time we’d just returned from a queer parents’ conference at which our son became a toddler (he took his first solo steps in the crowded pre-2001 LAX terminal). The accusation came from a...