For years, the shame some trans and nonbinary survivors carry about harmful behaviors they’ve used to cope with victimization can outweigh their shame over the violence itself. It’s a difficult and long-term process to hold complex histories of behaviors like drug...
As if being transgender or non-binary didn’t generate enough trauma on its own, we might be trying to cope with traumas that didn’t start with us. In the past few years, The 1619 Project, Tulsa Race Riot, and Black Lives Matter itself have all raised the public’s...
Fifteen minutes. That’s all the time John Gottman needs to observe a couple interact over a touchy subject. From that observation alone, Gottman has a 91% chance of correctly predicting whether the couple will end up staying together or divorcing. As we’ve said before...
Lately, I haven’t been able to breathe in my apartment, my nervous system has been too overwhelmed by resurfacing material about the recent loss of my friend. I often need to dedicate time solely to unapologetic grief, sobbing into gallons of coffee before “getting...
I’m a three-time DBT dropout. DBT, or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, is a therapeutic treatment that that aims to decrease the use of dangerous coping tools such as self-harm and substance use by tackling emotional dysregulation, analyzing the impact of these...
I can’t tell you how many times my therapist would tell me that I needed to take care of my Inner Child. “I don’t understand what you mean,” I’d say. She’d retort, “Just like you did with your son!” (She thought I was an excellent parent. I wasn’t at all sure about...
