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Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

I had top surgery when I was seventeen.   There’s a lot of fearmongering going on about gender-affirming care for minors and what it entails. Politicians and public figures have used this point of division to remove access to life-saving care for young trans people....
Asking for help

Asking for help

I grew up in a culture that taught fierce independence, never asking for help, and pushing through, even when hurting. I have been working to learn something different for a long time, and I’m still working at it.   Like many people, I have countless stories about how...
How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

It’s hot outside. We’ve seen many days of record heat across the globe this year, and there are more to come. It’s also metaphorically hot. People are angry – some righteously so at injustice, genocide, oppression – and some because people they don’t like are seeking...
Coping with Online Hate

Coping with Online Hate

A few hours after making a post on Facebook, the negative comments and “laugh” reacts start rolling in. Each of FORGE’s posts gets negative attention. When posting videos on platforms like Instagram and TikTok, especially videos that include the faces of FORGE staff,...
Impacts of Trauma on Relationships

Impacts of Trauma on Relationships

In addition to changing our brains and bodies, trauma can impact our relationships with other people. This can be especially difficult to navigate, as one of the ways that we can heal from trauma is through connections with others. But trauma can make safe, supportive...