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TDOR and Gratitude

TDOR and Gratitude

Winter is a tough time for many people. As we deal with time changes, weather changes, the sun setting earlier, too cold weather or not cold enough weather, and the uncertainty of the future, many of us are also dealing with seasonal affective disorder, heightened...
Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

I had top surgery when I was seventeen.   There’s a lot of fearmongering going on about gender-affirming care for minors and what it entails. Politicians and public figures have used this point of division to remove access to life-saving care for young trans people....
Asking for help

Asking for help

I grew up in a culture that taught fierce independence, never asking for help, and pushing through, even when hurting. I have been working to learn something different for a long time, and I’m still working at it.   Like many people, I have countless stories about how...
How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

It’s hot outside. We’ve seen many days of record heat across the globe this year, and there are more to come. It’s also metaphorically hot. People are angry – some righteously so at injustice, genocide, oppression – and some because people they don’t like are seeking...