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Some things you might discuss in sex therapy

Some things you might discuss in sex therapy

Note: this article discusses consensual sex and uses examples of types of sex but does not have detailed descriptions.  In the US, mainstream culture has a confusing relationship to sex. On one side, there’s pressure for everyone to want sex and to be sexual. On the...
What is sexual harm?

What is sexual harm?

While at the Creating Change conference this year, I attended a day-long workshop on sexual liberation, facilitated by Ignacio Riviera and Aredvi Azad. The presenters talked about the idea of “sexual harm” as an addition to our conversations about sexual violence....
Music for Slowing Down

Music for Slowing Down

Music is a powerful tool for regulating emotions. When we’re alone in the car, or wearing headphones on the bus, what songs do we use to release pent-up tears, or let out our rage, or remember an important moment with a loved one? Sometimes music moves us in ways that...
Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma

Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma

  Transcript: Hello, everyone. This is Ryan Sallans, and this vlog that I’m providing is “Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma.” I hope that this can assist those that are currently struggling, or those that have family or friends that are...
TDOR and Gratitude

TDOR and Gratitude

Winter is a tough time for many people. As we deal with time changes, weather changes, the sun setting earlier, too cold weather or not cold enough weather, and the uncertainty of the future, many of us are also dealing with seasonal affective disorder, heightened...