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Music for Slowing Down

Music for Slowing Down

Music is a powerful tool for regulating emotions. When we’re alone in the car, or wearing headphones on the bus, what songs do we use to release pent-up tears, or let out our rage, or remember an important moment with a loved one? Sometimes music moves us in ways that...
Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma

Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma

  Transcript: Hello, everyone. This is Ryan Sallans, and this vlog that I’m providing is “Reflections on Eating Disorders and Trauma.” I hope that this can assist those that are currently struggling, or those that have family or friends that are...
TDOR and Gratitude

TDOR and Gratitude

Winter is a tough time for many people. As we deal with time changes, weather changes, the sun setting earlier, too cold weather or not cold enough weather, and the uncertainty of the future, many of us are also dealing with seasonal affective disorder, heightened...
Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

Access to Joy: Gender-affirming care for trans youth

I had top surgery when I was seventeen.   There’s a lot of fearmongering going on about gender-affirming care for minors and what it entails. Politicians and public figures have used this point of division to remove access to life-saving care for young trans people....
Asking for help

Asking for help

I grew up in a culture that taught fierce independence, never asking for help, and pushing through, even when hurting. I have been working to learn something different for a long time, and I’m still working at it.   Like many people, I have countless stories about how...