a blog and resources for trans survivors and loved ones

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How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

How do we assess risk? How do we know safety?

It’s hot outside. We’ve seen many days of record heat across the globe this year, and there are more to come. It’s also metaphorically hot. People are angry – some righteously so at injustice, genocide, oppression – and some because people they don’t like are seeking...
Coping with Online Hate

Coping with Online Hate

A few hours after making a post on Facebook, the negative comments and “laugh” reacts start rolling in. Each of FORGE’s posts gets negative attention. When posting videos on platforms like Instagram and TikTok, especially videos that include the faces of FORGE staff,...
Impacts of Trauma on Relationships

Impacts of Trauma on Relationships

In addition to changing our brains and bodies, trauma can impact our relationships with other people. This can be especially difficult to navigate, as one of the ways that we can heal from trauma is through connections with others. But trauma can make safe, supportive...
Whose story is it anyway?

Whose story is it anyway?

The other night, my partner and I had dinner with our 30-year-old son. We don’t see him all that often, but when we do there is a lot of conversation. He went from being a kiddo who wasn’t big on talking to a young man who is interested in a lot of subjects and even...
Writing to Heal

Writing to Heal

Storytelling is one way that we can heal from trauma. This might take many forms–telling our story to someone else one-on-one, taking a class or workshop that helps us develop our stories, or doing exploratory writing that’s just for ourselves.  Writing can be a...