Taking the risk of asking: Healthcare self-advocacy
I had an eye appointment recently. There are only a few kinds of doctor’s appointments that just inherently stress me out: eye stuff and foot stuff. So I was already on edge on the drive over, navigating heavy traffic because of a highway shutdown and a weird, winding...
COVID trauma and how it connects us
When I attend masked events in my city, I feel a little more at ease than usual. Even when precautions aren’t “perfect,” I feel safer in a space with people who are willing to be a little bit uncomfortable to protect each other from the spread of illness. The part of...
Practice Sex
Once upon a time, in the early days of the internet, there were AOL chatrooms. In these chatrooms, people would meet people for virtual sex, which really just involved sexting (pre cell phone sexting). For many, this was an incredible opportunity to safely explore...
Breadboards
Breadboard — made of plastic foam and metal. A clean empty slate with a fixed number of holes. You can plug things in as you wish and construct a circuit. When you are finished, you can pluck all of them away and reuse the breadboard for another test. The first time I...
Reclaiming my Disabled Trans Body
Since before I was born, my body has been rejected. I didn’t have to declare a trans identity to face judgement. I didn’t have to do, nor say, anything; merely be in the process of coming into existence. Not only was I going to be born physically disabled in my bones,...
Alternatives to sex for when sex isn’t what you feel up to
Sex can be any number of things – a fun thing to do, a way to connect with others or yourself, a release, a meaningful part of a relationship, an added bonus, a hobby, and so much more. It can add to our lives, whether it has intimate meaning or not. It can also bring...