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Mindfulness: Being in the Moment

Mindfulness: Being in the Moment

Have you wondered how to incorporate mindfulness and meditation practices into your life? Do you worry that the only “right” way is to contort your body into uncomfortable (or unachievable) positions – and then stay that way for a long time? There are many ways we ALL...
Carrying Grief and Euphoria from TDOR to Tomorrow

Carrying Grief and Euphoria from TDOR to Tomorrow

It seems like so few people in America know how to hold grief together. We are often isolated in all its crackling expanse, raw depth, and the ways grief makes its own fissures into each of our lives as uniquely as the designs of each snowflake that can already be...
Therapist Guide: Choosing a Therapist

Therapist Guide: Choosing a Therapist

When starting to look for a therapist, many trans survivors find providers that specialize in either gender-related issues or sexual assault and trauma. Some survivors prefer to see one therapist who helps them explore both areas, while others prefer to see separate...
When it Happens Again: Polyvictimization

When it Happens Again: Polyvictimization

I was assaulted again by people I knew six weeks ago. Though I have been immersed in antiviolence and survivorship work for the past decade, my mind immediately spun back to familiar myths of self-blame and caustic shame. I open this blog post with these difficult...
Oprah Talks Trauma

Oprah Talks Trauma

“Oprah says…” You may eagerly await what comes next, or you may immediately tune out. Even if you fall in the latter group, this time I urge you to pay attention. Oprah has co-authored, with neuroscientist and child psychiatrist Bruce D. Perry, a book currently on the...